Are you living the life you love? So you love the life you live?
My answer to these questions 5 years ago was a definite 'No'.
My self development journey started when I left my dream career in 2013 and became a house wife for the first time in my life. I have always been the type seeking for spiritual growth and self development but I have not looked at myself so deep compared to the time after the big transitions in my life.
The journey started when I decided to choose love and family relationship over my career. Yes, I used the phrase 'I decided' in the previous sentence but I was not aware it was MY (active) decision when I made it. It looked for me that I sacrificed my career for my husband who was stubborn and not giving up what he has, which was the beginning of my suffering that followed for years.
I was working in a humanitarian sector which has been my dream career since I was 14. Without exaggeration, I can say that the first half of my life was dedicated to getting the job in the International Development. I worked hard and invested a lot both money and time to attain the position I wanted - became a nurse, learned English, went to a graduates school in Australia, travelled abroad and took seminars on nursing and international development to be the best candidate for international health projects.
My dream came true. The moment JICA, Japan International Cooperation agency, offered me a position for its' Human Development department, my heart was filled with hope that I can finally do what I had been looking forward for many years. It was when I was walking in a park near Frankfurt airport for a overnight transit when the waves of excitement and gratitude hit me. What I had longed for was finally getting in my hands.
The assignment in Ethiopia was challenging but much more rewarding. I loved to work with local communities, public servants, policy makers and international stakeholders. My life and career there was and still is one of the best years of my life.
However, one day, I came to the point where I felt I cannot have all I wanted at the same time - successful career and starting a family with the person I loved. So, after many sleepless nights, I decided to give up my dream job in Ethiopia and joined my Danish husband in Australia.
Without a job title and clear vision, I felt like I was no one in Australia. It was the first time I didn't have any convenient description of me, who I was.
My son came to the world in just a year later I left Ethiopia, and it was another challenge that consistently asked me who I was. (Well, it still is asking the same question as my son grows up...) Motherhood was also a transition from the 'I' era to 'You and me' era. I could see what I did were reflected on him and it was scary. It was a huge responsibility, and as all moms in the world feel, I wanted to do it 'right.' Not in the way right for the society but for my loving child. But as I put my son first in order to do it right and meet his needs, I got worn out. I was confused.
We also moved a few times along with the life shift above. From Australia to Japan, then to Denmark. The life in Denmark was nice but it posed many challenges, too. I didn't speak the local language, I couldn't get the job I wanted and I ended up taking the job that was somewhat interesting but not stimulating enough to balance with the low salary. Through this experience, I got my value lowered. It wasn't the job or the immigrant status that lowered my self value but me who devalued myself based on these facts.
With all these transitions in life, I got lost in life. I couldn't recall who I was before, I lost my positive spirit, I didn't know what I wanted to do. I couldn't even imagine my future. 'I'm not this kind of person who wet her pillow every night and blame her loved ones for her life,' I felt. But I didn't know what to do. One morning, I woke up thinking that I wanted to disappear. It was a subtle feeling but it was persistent that I couldn't shake off for quite a long time. Then I realized that there was something wrong and I needed to do something to get out of the miserable life.
Fast forward 5 years, I live the life I love. I discovered my new passion which is essentially the same to my old passion, helping people and making the world a better, loving and peaceful place.
All the skills, teachers and people I met helped me to become who I am today. I practiced yoga and meditation, joined retreats in lovely places in the world. I started to travel alone for a few days just to be with myself and enjoy what I used to love - surfing and be adventurous. All of these journey healed bits and pieces of me and my soul. In 2021, under the pandemic, I encountered Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) taught by Ms. Chinatsu Yamazaki, and her teaching dramatically changed my perception. It showed me how we humans are unique to each other and how complete we are as we are. It also taught a set of techniques that can transform personality. It was life changing.
With all my stories, past experiences and passion for serving the people who want to achieve more in life and the people who struggle with their current life to restore their authentic self.
My approach is a combination of everything I learned. I integrate NLP coaching, hypnotherapy, Timeline therapy, breathing, mediation, and dietary advice it is relevant. My goal is to create a long-lasting personal transformation for my client that enable my clients live the life they love.
My answer to these questions 5 years ago was a definite 'No'.
My self development journey started when I left my dream career in 2013 and became a house wife for the first time in my life. I have always been the type seeking for spiritual growth and self development but I have not looked at myself so deep compared to the time after the big transitions in my life.
The journey started when I decided to choose love and family relationship over my career. Yes, I used the phrase 'I decided' in the previous sentence but I was not aware it was MY (active) decision when I made it. It looked for me that I sacrificed my career for my husband who was stubborn and not giving up what he has, which was the beginning of my suffering that followed for years.
I was working in a humanitarian sector which has been my dream career since I was 14. Without exaggeration, I can say that the first half of my life was dedicated to getting the job in the International Development. I worked hard and invested a lot both money and time to attain the position I wanted - became a nurse, learned English, went to a graduates school in Australia, travelled abroad and took seminars on nursing and international development to be the best candidate for international health projects.
My dream came true. The moment JICA, Japan International Cooperation agency, offered me a position for its' Human Development department, my heart was filled with hope that I can finally do what I had been looking forward for many years. It was when I was walking in a park near Frankfurt airport for a overnight transit when the waves of excitement and gratitude hit me. What I had longed for was finally getting in my hands.
The assignment in Ethiopia was challenging but much more rewarding. I loved to work with local communities, public servants, policy makers and international stakeholders. My life and career there was and still is one of the best years of my life.
However, one day, I came to the point where I felt I cannot have all I wanted at the same time - successful career and starting a family with the person I loved. So, after many sleepless nights, I decided to give up my dream job in Ethiopia and joined my Danish husband in Australia.
Without a job title and clear vision, I felt like I was no one in Australia. It was the first time I didn't have any convenient description of me, who I was.
My son came to the world in just a year later I left Ethiopia, and it was another challenge that consistently asked me who I was. (Well, it still is asking the same question as my son grows up...) Motherhood was also a transition from the 'I' era to 'You and me' era. I could see what I did were reflected on him and it was scary. It was a huge responsibility, and as all moms in the world feel, I wanted to do it 'right.' Not in the way right for the society but for my loving child. But as I put my son first in order to do it right and meet his needs, I got worn out. I was confused.
We also moved a few times along with the life shift above. From Australia to Japan, then to Denmark. The life in Denmark was nice but it posed many challenges, too. I didn't speak the local language, I couldn't get the job I wanted and I ended up taking the job that was somewhat interesting but not stimulating enough to balance with the low salary. Through this experience, I got my value lowered. It wasn't the job or the immigrant status that lowered my self value but me who devalued myself based on these facts.
With all these transitions in life, I got lost in life. I couldn't recall who I was before, I lost my positive spirit, I didn't know what I wanted to do. I couldn't even imagine my future. 'I'm not this kind of person who wet her pillow every night and blame her loved ones for her life,' I felt. But I didn't know what to do. One morning, I woke up thinking that I wanted to disappear. It was a subtle feeling but it was persistent that I couldn't shake off for quite a long time. Then I realized that there was something wrong and I needed to do something to get out of the miserable life.
Fast forward 5 years, I live the life I love. I discovered my new passion which is essentially the same to my old passion, helping people and making the world a better, loving and peaceful place.
All the skills, teachers and people I met helped me to become who I am today. I practiced yoga and meditation, joined retreats in lovely places in the world. I started to travel alone for a few days just to be with myself and enjoy what I used to love - surfing and be adventurous. All of these journey healed bits and pieces of me and my soul. In 2021, under the pandemic, I encountered Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) taught by Ms. Chinatsu Yamazaki, and her teaching dramatically changed my perception. It showed me how we humans are unique to each other and how complete we are as we are. It also taught a set of techniques that can transform personality. It was life changing.
With all my stories, past experiences and passion for serving the people who want to achieve more in life and the people who struggle with their current life to restore their authentic self.
My approach is a combination of everything I learned. I integrate NLP coaching, hypnotherapy, Timeline therapy, breathing, mediation, and dietary advice it is relevant. My goal is to create a long-lasting personal transformation for my client that enable my clients live the life they love.
